Consider it Joy - Called to the Storm

One thing that catches me off guard is James 1. I think when we view it and consider it in the midst of a hardship, it could cause bitterness to rise up. It could cause us to question God, or even to say you want nothing to do with Him. But if we truly believe His word is true, and we truly strive to see the pieces of it fall into place in our lives, we need to take James 1 with the package:

"Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sister, whenever you face trials of many kinds," - James 1:2

As I have walked the line of unknowns, trials, tests, burdens, feeling like a burden all my life, (don't we all feel like we walk this line?) I find this verse intriguing. And over the last several years it has actually been the one that pops into my head most on any given day. That is why I have considered this to be my next "series" in this blog, and furthermore, the topic most likely to become my book someday, as it is one that continues to affect all of us. So without further ado...

Last week was a hard week for the Ruhlig bank account. I get text alerts when our bank account is low and I woke up every morning to a "warning" that we were at $4.91 all week. Talk about anxiety every morning. Sunday - Thursday. The best part is we didn't touch it. The number stayed above 0 all week despite auto bills and forgotten checks. That happens occasionally for us. We end up diving into reserves in the freezer and living on Ramen Noodles, but we always come out the other side. I can't say we're always proud of those moments, but it's a reality we fall into from time to time when the license plates ended up costing way more than we thought, or the gas to get to the appointment was a little unexpected, or that appliance/car/sink/house broke again, or there was a gift to pitch in for and shame didn't allow us to say "can't right now". The bills were paid, but we didn't go nuts last week. Sometimes we're short because of unexpected things, sometimes because we simply didn't think ahead well enough, but we try to learn each time. This is just one of those trials in life we occasionally face that we keep trying to grow from and plan better for. Sometimes inevitable, other times we just make a dumb choice and get forgetful about an expense. 

We can learn from our trials, whether we bring them upon ourselves or not. 

Aside from considering trials joys in James 1:2, the next thing we have to notice is that word "whenever". This insinuate they will happen to all of us. If you're living life, breathing air, dealing with other humans, failing body parts, and fickle finances, trials are gonna happen, y'all. This series is going to get personal because truth is we all deal with storms. So what if I challenge your thinking a little bit today in stating that perhaps the trials we are facing are ones we may be "called" to? Hang with me a second. 

Every single one of us comes with a unique set of gifts, skills, achievements, etc. But every single one of us also comes with brokenness, failures, struggles, weaknesses, etc. Am I depressing you yet? Keep with me. 

So with this reasoning, we can't help but know that our trials, hardships, struggles, etc. are brought about by our own set of unique traits. Some seem unfair and never asked for. Some we bring upon ourselves when we make terrible decisions. Either way, they are considered our trials. But our trials make us who we are. And later on as we continue to talk about them in this series, I'll point out just how we can respond in healthy and not so healthy ways, but consider today that whether you brought upon the hardships you face this very moment yourself, or if they are ones you never asked for, perhaps there is a reason. 

Perhaps you are called to the trials you face. Let me say it a different way...

Perhaps you are meant to face this storm for a reason much greater than you. 

Because down the road, perhaps years from now, someone else will face it too, and need you to show them they will make it through. 

Because down the road, perhaps years from now, you will look back and be able to see so clearly how God's hand was all over you in the midst of that storm, and that realization itself brings about a powerful feeling that your God is so incredibly sovereign. 

Because down the road, perhaps years from now, you will see the reason, even if now you can't. Even if you don't see it until you're standing face to face with your Creator. 

What if we started owning our trials? Not intentionally sinning and falling into the trials of our choices, but what if we took our terrible situations and look for the Real, Powerful, Silver Lining that is actually the Light of our Savior? This may sound naive if you are walking the difficult road of something hard right now, but trust me here. Trust HIM here. What if you are called to be at rock bottom? Not to be tormented, but to actually see Who the Rock is? Because I think as humans, we will search every tangible option we can before reaching out in faith to the only One Who can actually be Our Rock. 

"You call me out upon the waters, the great unknown where feet may fail..." - Oceans (Hillsong)

What if it is true He does call us out into the waves and wind where we have no idea what's going to happen? Aren't these the best times to grow though? For me, those were oddly the golden times of growth, and I pray that they continue to be times of growth with every twist, turn, frustration, and annoyance of the storms I face. I pray I can draw close to Him in the midst of current storms and future storms, because that is the position I need to take to live up to the calling of my storms. May we fulfill the calling well. 

Read:

Mark 14:22-33, James 1:2-4

Ask:

When was a time you felt rock bottom? Do you recall feeling God's presence in that time?

How might we be called to a storm in life? 

What happens when we try to walk through a storm by our own power or other peoples' power? What happens when we actually reach out to God's power?

Fill the Gaps - What's Your Smell?

Oftentimes while working at camp, we would get through a morning of cleaning up after a week-long group, gather around on the porch of the coffee shop, and wait to be "dismissed" into our 24 hours off. In this time, some of us would nap, go to the beach, reflect, hit the city up north, play...whatever. But the director of the camp would tell us the same thing every single time before we went our separate ways for the 24 hours: "Remember you are representing this camp and Jesus wherever you go." And he was right. He is still right. We would eat dinner out in a city almost an hour away, or even hours away if we went further, and we always ran into a kid we had just had a camp that past week, along with their parents, and they knew exactly who we were. They would light up at the sight of the camp counselors they had. Not only that, if we were sporting the camp gear with the camp's name on it, and acting like fools - imagine how dumb we made camp to look. Even worse, that we made Jesus look to that kid. If I push this idea further, to someone who was sitting across the way who had never been interested in this "Jesus" or this "Bible" stuff (it said "Bible Camp" in the camp title), and we were acting foolishly, imagine how that taste of faith was left in that person's mouth. Someone is always watching you.

As Christ-followers, we need to have a set of convictions, or a term I like better - standards. If we really break down the verse of Romans 12:1-2, we'll find what these "standards" should look like. They are not restraining, yet they are not negligent. They are not enslaving, but they set us free. They are not heavy, but they fit perfectly into what a hurting world needs. They break a cycle of terrible values in family lines, yet are meant to build relationship. They are neither condemning, nor judgmental, but give us a target to aim for as we walk through this world on the line of it and Christ-followers.

Romans 12:2- "Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is- His good, pleasing and perfect will." 

Ruth considered what a Godly life should look like. The "renewing of her mind" caused her to not only step out and take a risk, but to be noticed by a Godly man, who protected and favored her. As we learn more and more about Boaz, it's surprising that Ruth was the one he noticed, which says a lot about Ruth's demeanor.

Being renewed in mind and transformed by Christ means we do it the right way. Boaz pursued Ruth in the right way in following the laws of the time and going to the man who was in line ahead of him to "claim" Ruth as his. Though Boaz has a way with words in this negotiation, he doesn't break the law or dishonor God through merely "stealing" Ruth, but has a man to man conversation. Being set apart means to not to be "snooty" in our faith, but to do things the right way. To be above reproach. Sometimes that means being humble and taking the proper steps and allowing processes to work out. Boaz displays Romans 12:2 perfectly. He tested God's will in doing the right thing and allowing it to fall into place. If it wasn't God's will, the unnamed man may have claimed Ruth and all that came with her himself.

Setting standards based on God's standards, not the world's speaks volumes of your loyalties. This may look like obeying laws of this world and respecting authorities we don't always agree with. (Romans 13) When we are waiting for the right relationship, opportunity, etc. we need to look based on what would please God, not our own desires. After all, we are told in Matthew 6:33 to seek Him first and His righteousness, and all else will come.

A relationship - many struggle to find someone who "measures up" to perhaps some high standards you've placed based on your convictions. So, as your friends tell you that those are unrealistic or you'll never find someone who will meet those standards, you begin to lower them more and more until you don't even recognize yourself anymore. Same goes for behavior. You start to think that it is impossible to play by all the rules, so you let perfectionism ruin it all, allowing one bad day to make bad decisions for a week, a month, a year...even a life.

Careers - I know unemployed people who won't take jobs because they are waiting for a "higher position" to open up. They won't provide for their family because they are too prideful to settle into a job that makes money at all. Let me be the first person to tell you that you need to provide, not hold on to pride. Your convictions may feel like you should have higher standards for where you work, but your convictions should actually feel like you have higher standards for the people you are providing for. Take care of your people, not your pride. If you are trying to work up the ladder, this is different. You are providing while you better yourself and your situation. If you are sitting at home on the couch with video games while there is no food for the table, time to move to something that provides.

So how do we renew our minds in order to be transformed? It's all the work of God, but we need to do our part in setting our minds on Him.

We realize God is bigger than where we're at in life. He can form plans out of mere turmoil. As we have seen throughout the book of Ruth, a story that has gone from a bleak, funeral-ridden, hopeless life, to a hope-filled, exciting occasion in a relationship, God's way always works out. Even if the process right now is long, tiring, and just feels hard, know that God has bigger plans in the works. If life feels boring, mundane, and as I call it "in survival mode", God has excitement around the corner.

Remember Who you represent. Just like our director would tell us to watch our actions, we should remember Who we are displaying as we slap on the label "Christian". Does that mean we bend over backwards...well, yes. We put others first, even if it makes our teeth grind. We count others as higher than us. We step away from arguments that aren't going to change a thing. We just allow God to do the work and represent Him well. We will screw up and we will fall at times, and yes, people will call you a hypocrite and judge you, but remember we all are. We all fall. We all need Jesus. Even the ones who point. Remember to show Jesus to them.

Let your light shine. Let your smell be sweet. Every circumstance you face has an opportunity to display God in your life. Every person  you interact with, you will give off a "smell". Even if you don't talk to them, people access you from across a room. Take every moment of this life and use it to shine, even on days you don't want to shine. Put off a vibe that screams redeemed. Shine in the crappiest times of life because that is when people stop and ask what in the world is wrong with you? Or why are you so "hopeful, positive, even joyful"? It doesn't mean we don't mourn the hardships, but we shine off Who has us in those hardships.

Walk this world like a Ruth or a Boaz. Try to see past circumstances, and accept God's will for what it is. Keep in mind that He has it all together, even when we are not together. Fill the gaps of your life with this hope and with standards that will make the world turn and wonder.

Scripture to Read:
Ruth 4:1-12, Romans 12:1-2

Questions to Ponder:
How do you think you can renew your mind?
What kind of "smell" do you think you give off when it comes to Christianity?
What do you think the term "living sacrifice" means in Romans 12:1? How do we do this in life?
How does the way in which Boaz went about marrying Ruth speak volumes of His standards and convictions?

Fill the Gaps - The Entitlement Trap

As I stepped carefully over puddles and half sidewalks, I could see the smiles coming from through doors and windows. Children came up to us. Parents waved as they held babies. Chickens, dogs, even cows at times roamed the streets, grazing through trash and mud. Barbed wire twisted around some houses, while other houses stood barely held together by sheets of scrap metal and cement blocks. I saw children laughing and playing as they flew plastic bag kites and pulled a milk carton car along the road. Some rolled bike tires down the hills, like it was the best thing ever. I used to ask why does everyone seem so happy here? Maybe it's a front or a face, but there is a genuine way of life that shows contentment as I walk through the village in the Dominican Republic. True, deep contentment. And I finally realized that entitlement is the factor. There is an epidemic of entitlement that runs rampant in America, even with the best of intentions.

Entitlement robs you of contentment. It doesn't take long if you are watching TV, listening to a radio, or walking through a store to realize that our culture and media urges us to think we "deserve" it. Even if you didn't want it before, you find yourself saying, "yeah...maybe I do deserve a (truck, vacation, new house, phone, etc.)" We fail to see what we have all of the sudden and realize we are more wealthy than much of the world we live in already.  Entitlement has you looking at what everyone else has, rather that what you have. Entitlement has you thinking you deserve when in reality we all deserve nothing. As Lecrae's song "Boasting" goes: "Tomorrow's never promised, but it is we swear. Think we're holding our own, just a fist full of air. God has never been obligated to give us life, if we fought for our rights, we'd be in hell tonight. Mere sinners owed nothing but a fierce hand. We never loved Him, we pushed away His pierced hands."

Entitlement says, "I deserve." We were created by an almighty God who can give us what we need when we need it. He gave us exactly what we need to live the best life now and the eternal life after this life, we only need to accept it. We entered this world with nothing, and we can take nothing out of it either. (1 Timothy 6:7)
"I don't deserve bad health."
"I deserve to be noticed."
"I deserve a raise."
"I deserve a better job."
"I deserve to be heard."
"I deserve to go first."
"My kid deserves the best."

We feed this mentality as a culture as soon as our kids are out of the womb. The truth is, our kids don't deserve everything, but sometimes they get everything. The truth is, we don't deserve bad health, but sometimes we're handed that card. We don't deserve anything but condemnation as we stumble around a perfect God. It's harsh, but it's truth. If we don't grasp it, we will be surprised indeed once we reach eternity.

Does this mean we beat ourselves up? Not at all. It means we stop expecting, and we start being grateful. As we continue to look to our model for this series, Ruth, we have seen how much she didn't expect, but showed complete gratitude to her mother in law and to Boaz. She came to this foreign land with Naomi, knowing full well she probably wouldn't have a future there, and started out working hard for her means, and for Naomi's means. She humbled herself to Boaz and showed gratitude for his favor. Ruth didn't expect a single thing. She found contentment.

Furthermore, Ruth's situation was one that anyone had the "right" to be discontented with. Widowed, no signs of a future, and forced to work harder to make a life. There is a good reason Naomi changed her name to Mara (meaning bitter), as Naomi displayed this emotion. And then when Boaz tells Ruth that she needs to wait for him to do the right thing and find a way to marry her legally. As exciting as this is, Ruth was content with this. Whether it worked out or not, she waited.

How do we get by entitlement and the sense of deserving everything in our time, and embrace contentment and gratitude?

Stop asking what people can do for you, and start asking what you can do for them. A huge part of realizing what you have is giving what you have to offer. God's perfect plan is worked into our gifts, talents, skills, resources. When we give, without expecting anything back, we find contentment indeed.

Count your blessings. Sure, your budget isn't as big as the Jones', but you can still get by. Your kids probably have toys that aren't only milk carton cars, but ones you step on every day. Maybe your health is terrible, but you still find joy in the small things that God places before you and you have a different appreciation for life because you know how precious each day is. You may feel like you have nothing, but you have people. You may believe no one is there, but God is, and if you've accepted His grace and gift, you have a gift that will never be taken away. There is always something to be thankful for, and if you can't find one, keep looking.

Let's change the norm in America and fill our gaps with Jesus, not with things we wish we had. Nothing will satisfy more than He.

Scripture to Read:
2 Kings 5:11, Philippians 2:3

Questions to Ponder:
How does entitlement cause us to completely miss seeing grace in our lives?
In 2 Kings we read about Naaman expecting to be healed. How does his attitude reflect one of entitlement and discontentment? What might he be missing in God's plan?
How does not expecting from others help you embrace contentment?

Fill the Gaps - Security Breach

I'm probably one of the most insecure people I know, which is ironic because I work with Jr. High girls. I'm just going to be honest and say I think they are more secure in who they are than I am half the time. Maybe that's why I identify with that group of people best...? Insecurity means a lack of confidence. Uncertainty about oneself. Questioning of your worth and place in this world. But security is not found in anything that can change.

We try to find security in relationships. Singles scramble to keep any prospect in their lives just so they feel secure in marriage. Not a good place to find security.

We try to find security in careers. Feeling a sense of accomplishment and worth in a place that we know won't always be there. Not a good place to find security.

We try to find security in power, beauty, money, people, things...all horrible things to find security in.

Find a security in the One Who says He will never leave you or forsake you. (Deuteronomy 31:6) That will never change, no matter how much you do. When we find security in Christ, nothing else will matter in 100 years. If you truly put your trust in Him and your life in His hands, you have nothing to worry about.

Ruth didn't try to squeeze God into her plans, but she followed the urging from God to go with her mother in law, to a place where no way ever would she find a future, just because of her origin. Ruth simply went about every day life, working to provide for Naomi and herself and God saw her heart and provided not only a living, but a man who honored Him and found favor in Ruth because of her lovely character and diligence. Ruth didn't show insecurity, she showed faithfulness and trust in a God she was just meeting. It is incredible to see how faithfulness wipes away insecurity.

I love the words to Lauren Daigle's song, You Say. It speaks volumes of how we should view security in Christ alone. If you haven't heard it, check it out here!
But the premise of the song is that we fight voices that say we're not enough, we are not loved, we are not worthy, but God says just the opposite of those things, and we should believe that what He says is true.

Insecurity will not only destroy you, it will destroy your relationships. Insecurity will place standards on people around you, mostly on your spouse or significant other, that they can't fill. Only God can fill them. The problem here is that you are trying to find security in humans, not God. The same goes for church. Church is a funny line because it is God's, but it is ran by imperfect humans. Many, many, many times people storm out, throw fits, or rant about how awful a church is because it didn't give them what they needed when they needed it. Again, where is the security here?

Insecurity in your career will leave you on mountaintops that will quickly tumble down into valleys, leaving you wondering why you're not happy. They you'll be scrambling back up the mountaintop again only to find yourself exhausted after each run, and depressed when you tumble back down.

Remember what God thinks of you and ask Him to reveal to you repeatedly the truth He has for you and about you. Insecurity creeps up from every direction - social media is a biggie, but God's Word is filled with love for you. See the things of this world, the circumstances of this life, and the accomplishments of your abilities as vapors that will be gone in the blink of an eye. See God's security as the eternal, secure picture that you should cling to hardest.

Scripture to Read:
Deuteronomy 31:6, Hebrews 13:8

Questions to Ponder:
How does knowing that God is the same always encourage you?
What sorts of things are you putting security in that are leaving you frustrated and depressed?
How can you take steps today to remind yourself of what God thinks of you, so you can get out of the cycle of temporary securities?

Fill the Gaps - The Process of Purity

I think many of us have been through that awkward talk with our parents or at youth group about purity. Our minds tend to go to sexual purity when we hear that word, but purity is so much more than that area of our being. It is even more than our morals and lack of sin. Purity comes from our whole being.

When we truly boil down the definition of purity, it helps to think about things we reach for that are pure, thus better for us or better quality. Pure honey, pure maple syrup, pure gold, pure essential oils...These things are more "whole" in what they actually are, meaning no additives. As we read Matthew 5:8, Jesus tells us, "blessed are the pure in heart for they will see God." This is a statement that should make us want to jump up and start deciding how to be "pure in heart".

As we carry on through our study of Ruth and how God blesses her in her faithfulness, we'll find a lady who is striving for purity, despite her background and her origin. As we read of the "intriguing" customs of her laying at Boaz's feet in the night, we will learn that this was an action of respect and endearment, not one of impurity. Ruth wanted to show her intentions, and as a result, she learn's that of Boaz's intentions, and together they see God shine through them in their character. (Ruth 3:1-15)

How do we strive to become pure in our being so that we may see God more and more?

Guard your heart. You have probably heard that passage out of Proverbs that says "above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it."  These words weren't just placed in the Bible for you to share on facebook in the pretty, curly writing over top of a sunset image. They were put there as an intentional warning that helps us seek purity in our lives. Guarding our hearts means guarding our very center of life. When we are vulnerable to the things of this world that are not helping our walks with Christ, we are slowly giving pieces of our values over, and leaving God in the dust, when in all honesty, you can't live without Him. This passage not only means to guard your heart, but heart means your mind, understanding, being, character, will, inclination, soul...

Stop listening to your "heart". I cringe every time I see people post something like "I'm listening to my heart, and it tells me to..." or "those other curly font, meme things that say "Follow Your Heart." I'm here to tell you to never, ever listen to or follow your heart. It is deceptive and based on emotions and feelings. (Jeremiah 17:9) If I let my daughter listen to her heart or how she is feeling, she'd be made up of spoiled preschooler with every sparkly unicorn, pink baby, and full of fruit snacks for every meal. If I listened to my heart most days, I wouldn't have any friends and I would be working from my couch. The heart and emotions are real, but stupid. They know nothing. They react on impulse and no common sense. Just don't.

Watch your "input" - it equals your "output". Hanging with people who swear all the time will probably get you swearing a lot. Watching movies that are suggestive will probably desensitize you to what is unacceptable in God's eyes and make it more socially acceptable in your eyes. Not reading your Bible each day will not provide you the reminder of hope and empowerment for the day that comes from God, but it will cause you to lean on other things. How can you share the hope of Christ is you neglect to put it in your own soul? Strive for pure things to put pure out.

Leave room for Jesus. We used to tell kids at camp who got a little too close to "leave room for Jesus". Not only is this applicable teens in their public displays of affections, but for marriages and life in general. Marriages will only thrive when they have Christ at the center. Hope in the midst of struggles is only found in relying on God. You can find excitement in the mundane because you can see God working even in the woes of Monday, because the pure in heart will see God. Remember to have God in every aspect of your life.

Purity is acquired in time, and God will grace us that purity, but we also need to do our part in allowing Him to do so. Start watching your thoughts towards others. Take a knee in humility in order to gain understanding. Strive to seek Him in every area.

Scripture to Read:
Ruth 3:1-15, Proverbs 4:23

Questions to Ponder:
What does "purity" mean to you?
How can you strive for purity in your wholeness this week?
What do you need to to do make sure you are filled with Christ and not just emotions of the heart?

Fill the Gap - Hopelessly Devoted

I just love seeing my youth group girls dance in their shows twice a year. You can see the dedication, the passion, the work they have put in all year to nail their twirls and forms. Without taking the time to practice or to really focus on what needs to be done, refining one's skill or passion is impossible. As with any sport, hobby, craft, you have to devote time to honing in on God so that you can become more and more in tune with Him, living life in His ways, and knowing the differences between His voice and that of the world.

To become devoted to something, it takes time and honesty. You have to address the habits that hold you back. You have to strive to discipline yourself to practice daily. In Deuteronomy 6:5, we are told to "Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength." In Matthew 22:37 we are told similarly to "Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind." It is easy to be so devoted to something that is in front of you, or that you will find rewards of this world in, but not so easy when you can't always feel God in front of you and know that that reward is far greater than any other you can get on earth.

Why is it important to become devoted to God? In a world that carries many different views from many different people, with many different opinions, we hear all sorts of "commentaries" on Who God is. Keeping in mind that God is the only One Who can tell us Who He truly is, it takes a relationship with Him - one that is more than attending church on Sunday mornings, or only on Easter and Christmas. To truly build relationship with someone, you spend time with them. To truly know the ins and outs of something, you get all up in it. Being devoted to God makes Him personal to you, no matter what someone else's portrayal is of Him.

Ruth's view of God was probably interesting, as she was from Moab, which didn't worship God. Her mother in law was bitter towards God. And her sister in law had gone back to worship her god. The only way Ruth could have learned Who God is, was to do what was right and getting to know Him up close and personal. Obviously Ruth had seen God in a real way and wanted to embrace Him as she did what she needed to in order to provide for her mother in law. Don't ever let humans crush your relationship with God - He is bigger than that. Don't ever let a circumstance crush your relationship with God - He is bigger than that. Don't ever walk through this life without Him - because you will fall, and you will need Him, whether you believe it or not.

So how do we devote ourselves to God? How do we fill the gap within us that we try to fill with merits of this world that only leave us wanting more? We strive to love Him, just as those above verses tell us to.

With all your heart. The heart is a symbol all throughout the Bible that represents the "center". The hub in which your life runs and desires are tick. Is He the center of everything you do? If you're married, dating, in love, make sure He is right there in the middle of it.

With all your soul. The Greek word for soul is "breath". The breath of life. We breathe in God's goodness and breathe out praises. I love the song "Great Are You Lord", as it says "It's Your breath in our lungs, so we pour out our praise, we pour out our praise..." That says it all. We wouldn't even be breathing and walking around this world without His hand.

With all your strength. With a force or great degree. Not that we force our beliefs on people, but we pursue God with everything and every ounce of energy we can muster.

With all your mind or might. Your understanding. Your way of thinking. Proverbs 3:5 tells us to "trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding." When you truly know God and have seen Him work, you will know that His ways are nothing like the plans in your head or the way you see this world. They will blow your mind.

Jeremiah 29:11 says, "for I know the plans I have for you,' declares the Lord, 'plans to prosper and not harm you, plans for a future and hope." Sounds good, doesn't it? The problem is we usually stop here, thinking we'll be handed this promise, and we fail to read the very next verses that tell us that we need to give a little too. Jeremiah 11:12-14 continues with, "then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart. I will be found by you,' declares the Lord..." 

Do your part in seeking Him. Don't wait for Him to just hand it to you. Show you are devoted and you want to be devoted. Work for what is going to matter the most at the end of this life. Don't dare take another step without Him.

Scripture to Read:
Ruth 2:12, Deuteronomy 6:5

Questions to Ponder:
How does Boaz's words speak highly of Ruth's devotion to God?
How can you personally find habits to get more devoted to God?
What happens in your life when you become devoted more and more to God than on the the opinions of the world?

Fill the Gap - Character Challenge

I love caller ID. Seriously, you can't even believe how much I love it. As an introverted, insecure, unsure, plan ahead for any possible scenario, fearful person, answering the phone is something I hate doing. It's a BIG part of my job, so I do it and I find out it wasn't so bad each time, but since I got caller ID, I no longer have to deal with telemarketers. (Except those ones that trick you by calling from a local number when they're really in Tahiti...but another frustration for another day.) The thing is, I can take the easy way out with caller ID with telemarketers. I don't have to worry about them recording my voice when it accidentally says "yes" or something along those lines, and have them use it against me when the "yes" had absolutely nothing to do with the thing they were selling anyways. It's cruel, I know...so I love letting my voicemail answer them.

Taking the easy way out is usually an option. Sometimes, we're forced into corners where this really is no easy way, and I truly believe those are the moments the rubber meets the road in terms of faith. But I also believe when we see something through and do it the right way, we refine and reveal our character greatly.  Another thing I worry about a lot is how I look to people. I have always lived to please man, which is an unhealthy place to be. By pleasing people, I'm too busy trying to stay out of conflict to realize I'm not honoring God, the One I should be pleasing.

When we are in the midst of rock bottom, of singleness, of unknowns, we tend to either keep fighting or give up. We embrace hope, bitterness or both. Ruth, having hope, went out to provide for her mother in law in the fields. Naomi flat out told her old friends that she was bitter. Ironically, Ruth's fighting to find hope is what attracted Boaz to her. (Ruth 2:8-12) "I have heard all the things you have done for your mother in law." Boaz's words to Ruth's question, "why have I found favor with you?"

Character is gained when we fight through the struggle. Character is gained when we can humbly take a knee and allow God to carry us through. Character is gained when we allow the irritating grains of life to turn us into perfect pearls. As I review James 1:2-4, we remember that this is how faith is gained. "because the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything."

If we really dig into this passage, we see that trials, hardships, unknowns are what give us character. They give us faith. They give us perseverance. They make us mature. With these things, we can take on the next trial, and the next trial, and the next, knowing we can grow even more.

Before you try to fill the gap in your heart with trying to impress people when what you have, with your words, with your body, fill the gap of your heart with Jesus. Nothing screams character more than a person who has an all out pursuit of faith in Him. It may not make you a popular person in this world, it may not win you awards, or even pay the bills, but it will matter as you lead a legacy in your family. Change the hardship story to a story of hope. Cling to Him and build something that may require a risk, or time, or patience. In Him, find peace, find worth, find something greater than your circumstance, and allow Him to build a character in you that can inspire others to find character in Him one day. 

Scripture to Read:
Ruth 2:8-12, Galatians 1:10, James 1:2-4

Questions to Ponder:

What does character mean to you?
How do you build character, especially in Christ?
Hoe does trying to please man over pleasing God hinder a building of character?